Wednesday before Thanksgiving, Linda and I received a chilling call
from a dear friend here in Amarillo, her husband and our friend
had committed suicide. We arrived at their home shortly after the
police arrived and the horror of this tragedy stunned us. I had
to go into the house so that his wife didn't have to deal with it
and I'll tell you this, I will never be able to erase that visual
memory from my mind. It's one of those scenes you just wish you
hadn't seen. It has been a sad, sad Thanksgiving holiday for the
many friends and family members devastated by this surreal event.
And I lament the sadness that will now forevermore haunt his two
daughters, young grandson and wife of 32 years each and every Thanksgiving
we raced over to the house to help in this crisis, I was overwhelmed
with the thought that I had somehow failed my friend. Please, understand
what I'm saying: I do not blame myself nor anyone else for this
awful tragedy, for I do believe that each of us is in sole custody
of his or her life and actions. What bothered me was the thought,
that I could have been a better friend and perhaps tried a little
harder and been more aggressive in my attempts to reach my troubled
friend who had spurned all attempts by his family and friends to
help him. He had slowly but surely isolated himself and withdrawn
into his dark depression. Career disappointments, financial problems
and marital problems had overwhelmed him and he just didn't like
himself anymore. I personally see suicide as sad, the fatal end
result of hating oneself and at the same time I see it as the ultimate
selfish act. The pain, the loss, the suffering and the guilt felt
particularly by family, are difficult to describe to any who have
not personally experienced such a horrifying loss.
back to my thoughts about friendship. I'm afraid that far too many
of us just simply take each other for granted. We'll call tomorrow,
we'll get together next week, and then the person we love isn't
there to call, go to lunch or golf with.
4:13: Go to now, ye that say, To day or to morrow we will go into
such a city, and continue there a year, and buy and sell, and get
14 Whereas ye know not what shall be on the morrow. For what is
your life? It is even a vapour, that appeareth for a little time,
and then vanisheth away.
15 For that ye ought to say, If the Lord will, we shall live, and
do this, or that. (KJV)
diem,seize the moment. No man lying on his deathbed wishes he had
spent more time at the job. Life is about relationships. We must
not take our families or our friends, or our brethren for granted.
We shall surely one day regret it. The lament of those sage ones
in the "golden years" is rarely of what they have done
but rather it is a lament of what they DIDN'T do that saddens them.
So make that call, send that email, go to lunch, golf, fish, do
something with somebody you love.
18:24: A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there
is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother. (KJV)
Thank God for friends and family,.may we all show our love for
another by being true friends.
the Love of God,